“Be perfect, therefore, as your Heavenly Father is perfect” (Matthew 5:48).
Perfectionism is the preferred disease of the twenty-first century and it’s killing us. Ever said or heard one of these?
“I want my wedding day to be perfect.”
“This proposal has to be perfect – dot every “i” and cross every “t.”
“Get this mess cleaned up! Our guests will be here in an hour and this place has to be perfect.”
“I stayed up all night to work on my paper – it has to be perfect if I’m going to get an “A” in this class.” (That would be me.)
Or maybe this one sounds most familiar to you:
“Why did I do that/say that/think that? I’m a Christian – I’m supposed to be perfect!”
I thought you would recognize the last one – I know I’ve heard it in my own head countless times. And we have the mandate of Jesus in our key verse to back up that relentless voice. “Be perfect, therefore, as your Heavenly Father is perfect” (Matthew 5:48) “Be perfect – be perfect – be perfect.” Yet we know that only One was perfect – the speaker Himself. Does that mean He was setting up an unrealistic standard for us? Not exactly. When Jesus used the word “perfect” He was not saying be flawless – He was speaking of maturity – the word (in Greek) teleioo and its root telos mean “to reach a goal, to finish or complete.” Jesus was saying we need to continually strive for maturity as the goal of our faith.
What’s interesting is that while the Bible uses the word “perfect” just forty-two times, the word “good” appears more than six hundred times.[1] Like in the creation account when, after completing each day’s creative work, God examined what He had done and “saw that it was good.” In the original Hebrew this means that God found His work “pleasing, favorable and satisfactory.” Think about it – if God, at the zenith of His creative work, was content with “good” shouldn’t “good” be good enough for us?
There’s more: He promised a good land to the Israelites when they escaped Egyptian bondage (Exodus 3:8), Jeremiah told the people to “ask where the good way is and walk in it” (6:16). Jesus said the Father gives “good gifts” (Matthew 7:11), He proclaimed the soil with the greatest harvest good ((Luke 8:8) and Paul tells us to “overcome evil with good” (Romans 12:21) – not perfection.[2] Even the Gospel that saves us is called “the Good News” (Acts 5:42). Why then, are we trying so hard to be perfect?
God didn’t saddle us with this obsession for perfection – it was the enemy who planted that impossible seed. But we have watered and nurtured it until it has become a weed of gigantic proportions and, as weeds so often do, it has choked the life out of us and the “good works” we were created to do (Ephesians 2:10). It’s his way of keeping you distracted, dissatisfied, frustrated – and fruitless. Perfectionism will drive us to the point of exhaustion as we push ourselves to reach for an unreachable standard. Or, on the flip side, it will leave us in a state of paralysis, fearful of even attempting anything because we know we’ll never measure up. I’ve been both – and it’s no way to live. You and I will never pull off perfection this side of heaven. And that’s okay.
My friend, only God is perfect and making you perfect is His work alone, through the blood of Jesus and the power of the Spirit. But you won’t see the perfectly finished product until you stand before Him in heaven. So hang all your perfectionist tendencies on Him and be free from that burden you were never meant to carry. Being good is good enough.
Holy Father, You didn’t ask me to measure up to some perfect standard, but it’s what often demand of myself. Please help me to rest in the knowledge that good is good enough for You. Amen.
[1] I am using the NIV – New International Version, other translations may have a different word count.
[2] All Scripture emphases were added by me.